Just for today: I will let go of anger
Anger is a challenging and destructive emotion for many of us. It is something we often use against the people we care about the most; hurting ourselves as much as it hurts them. Anger is often generated when someone or something fails to meet our expectations. Perhaps even more importantly, when we do not meet the expectations we set for ourselves. But anger rarely achieves anything other than to make us and others feel badly.
Anger is actually a conscious choice, a habitual response we have developed. We have been reacting in a similar fashion to similar circumstances for years. Yet, we can break that cycle and choose a different response instead. If a typical morning involves being cut off by another driver on our way to work, we often default to anger. Instead we can choose not to be angry - just for today.
Why not just take a deep breath, relax, forgive and let it go? What will we achieve by remaining angry and cutting him off in return? Nothing. All that we end up with is an elevated heart rate and more stress; which is not good for our well-being.
In the fast paced world we live in there are many times throughout the day when we feel triggered, stressed, frustrated and angry. It is just as harmful for us to deny our reality or pretend we do not have these feelings. Instead we can use anger to transform. We can acknowledge our anger. Witness it. Let it transform. When we acknowledge and witness our anger, we allow that energy to transform. We can then invite love and compassion into that space.
Practices to help with this principle:
Just for today means focusing on the present day, not projecting too much into the future. Anger is more manageable if we think of the present day.